I am both pleased and humbled that my post last week on not settling for less than you deserve‘ met some of you at a time when you needed to hear those words. The message in the post, even as I was writing it triggered many thoughts and reflections in my mind about my life.
This same deep reflection must have been the path one of my readers took who contacted me by email after reading the post. She considered that all her life she had settled for less, done less and become less than what she should have.
Through conversation, it appeared to me that her thoughts had become more than concerns, they had become obsessive worries, that at times consumed most of her thought. The unfortunate truth is she is not alone; so many people have the same trait.
There are some people who take worrying to a different level, they spend their time worrying over everything and the smallest thing and worst of all at times expect the world around them to sympathise and worry with them too. Their unwitting aim is to to create one big worry family’ around them.
Do you know anyone like this?
Now I am not saying there is nothing in life to be concerned about, life is full of things to be concerned about, like… How will your children grow up? Will you get that new job you’re applying for? Will you have enough money to pay the mortgage? Will you ever find someone to love you? Does my bum look big in these trousers? These are but a few of life’s concerns.
However, why worry? Of course there are things that concern us all. However, why do some people spend so much of their time worrying over their life circumstances? I cannot think of one time in my life when worrying ever solved anything.
Can you think of a time when worrying ever helped you?
Worrying is like a rocking chair; it gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere. What worries you – masters you. It takes over your every thought, dictates your moods and shapes your actions.
Worrying is emotional and tends to create irrational thoughts. On the other hand, thoughtful consideration of your concerns will lead to rational thinking and produce realistic and effective problem solving outcomes.
Think about it, when was the last time you worried and produced positive thoughts. Worrying always exerts negative emotions and feelings and in turn will invariably produce more negative emotions and feelings.
Fear breeds fear, doubt breeds doubt and worry breeds even more worry.
As Nobel Prizewinner Isaac Bashevi once said, ‘If you keep on saying things are going to be bad, you have a good chance of becoming a prophet.’
Do not worry and do not stress, as these emotions will leave you performing at far less than your best. Remember the words of Robert H. Schuller, ‘Tough times never last, but tough people do.’
Harvey MacKay says, ‘Time is free, but it is not priceless. You can not own it, but you can use it. You cannot keep it, but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back.’
Do not spend your time worrying, as it gains nothing, achieves nothing and adds nothing to your ability to handle the challenges life throws your way.
Consider the words of Leo Buscaglia, ‘Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.’
So why worry?
It’s good to share. Your thoughts and comments are always welcome.
Have a phenomenal week
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