Some people seem blessed with a harvest of friends over the years, while others find themselves losing’ friends without knowing why. Are you blessed with friends or do you keep losing out on friendships?
Friendship starts with honesty.
Is honesty the key to a good relationship?
Honesty is at the heart of any good relationship. Thus, a good friend is someone who has the courage to be honest – first and foremost about themself. Once you know yourself and accept yourself, you can find people who are like you (two peas in a pod) or who complement you (opposites attract).
Unfortunately, we frequently pretend to be something we’re not, because we’re ashamed of ourselves on some level or we feel that we will not be accepted for who we are. A timid child trying to fit in with their more outgoing peers might pretend to enjoy a rollercoaster when they are really afraid of heights. An older person might pretend to enjoy opera because they think it makes them appear sophisticated.
Are you being your authentic self?
The problem with presenting a false face to the world is that you end up doing things you hate and resenting other people for not seeing and knowing the real you… even though you’re the one that kept your true self hidden. Therefore, being a good friend isn’t just about getting people to like you; it’s about letting people know you. At the same time, you also have to make your friends feel comfortable that they can do the same in return.
Some of the most important people in our lives are our friends. Have you shown yours lately what they mean to you? A good friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future and accepts you just the way you are. Is that the kind of friend you are?
How do you know if you are a ‘Good Friend’?
Being a good friend involves much more than just sharing good times with others. A good friend provides a safe place’ to share thoughts and feelings, without fear of judgment or negative criticism.
Oprah Winfrey says, ‘A friend is someone who is there for you when she’d rather be somewhere else.’ When a friend is suffering, you may not know what to say, you just need to be there. Bring them soup when they are sick and help them with their CV when their job gets downsized. Be the getaway car when he or she has to pick up their belongings from her ex’s place. Let them know that you’ll always be there and accept them for everything that makes them who they are.
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