Maybe they both felt that what they had to say was more important than what the other had to say.
It made me reflect on my own ability or inability to listen in similar situations and I asked myself whether there are times when I talk too much, when what I should be doing is listening’.
What many people do not realise is that listening’ is a commutation skill. This life skill is not taught enough.
We can all benefit from more effective communication skills in our business and social lives. The ability to communicate effectively at work or in our personal life is one of the most important set of skills a person needs.
There are several components to effective communication. One of the most important is listening’, and effective listening at that. When we are speaking we want to be listened to, we feel insulted when we are ignored.
Listening is more than hearing the words; it is understanding and accepting the other person’s message and his or her thoughts and feelings.
A breakdown in communication can be attributed to many of the problems in your business and personal relationships. At the root of these problems is the inability of one or both parties to listen effectively.
How many times have you said, ‘He or she does not listen to me’? How often has the volume of the conversation drowned out the essence of your message?
How often have you thought you were listening to your children when they were talking to you? Only to find them stop talking to you after a while because they, above all people in your life are more sensitive to you and the attention you pay them.
If you take the letters from the word listen’ and rearrange them it will spell silent’. This silence is key to effective listening. When you want to effectively listen to your partner, work colleague or children, stop whatever you are doing and silence all those other thoughts in your head.
Silence your biases and assumptions of what the other person may be trying to say and listen to what they are really saying.
Taking time to listen more may even help save or repair some of your personal relationships, now that’s got to be worth it.
Consider the words of Dr. Karl Menninger, ‘The reward for always listening when you would rather be talking is wisdom.’
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