This week I have been reflecting on many of the things I have done in my life. My reflection, brought home that I had done so much in my life outside of family achievements.
From my books and training courses for adults and young people, my entertainment company Decorum, my motivational events for young people The Woodson Barrow Luncheons‘ to name a few things. Perhaps one of the biggest has been starting The 100 Black Men of London, a charity which mentors young people. This is especially poignant for me this year, as we celebrate 10 years of service to the community.
As I reflected one thing was clear in my mind, ‘I did not do it by myself’‘, in fact I could not have done it by myself.
There were so many wonderful people that helped me along the way and I am so thankful for how they have blessed my life.
‘Appreciation is a wonderful thing. It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.’ says Francois Marie Arouet
How many times have you heard the statement, ‘I did it all by myself’? It is a statement used by so many people, who have had to overcome adversity and challenges to achieve their goals.
Though this may seem a truism from the outside, with further soul-searching by the individual making the statement, they will find that they did not do it all by themselves’.
They usually find there were a few individuals who supported them along the way in achieving their dreams.
You must always recognise that however small the help, there have been many people who supported you. Individuals who helped, advised, opened doors, made a phone call or even lent a listening ear in the pursuit of your endeavours.
Remember it is the small things that can make the big things happen. So you cannot forget even the smallest gestures that people make, because that gesture could be the start of something major that happens in your life.
This, ‘I did it by myself’ statement does not allow you to recognise the many valuable people who have impacted your life. It also does not allow you to appreciate them in a way that makes them feel valued.
These people need to be recognised, valued and invested in.
So make a list, then think of a creative way to say thank you to them. This gesture of appreciation will manifest itself many times.
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Have a phenomenal week
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