Are you afraid to ask difficult questions?




I love this Chinese Proverb, ‘One who asks a question is a fool for five minutes, one who does not ask a question remains a fool forever.’

Are you afraid to ask difficult questions for fear of the answers you might get?

Most of us were told as a child, ‘Children should be seen and not heard.’ You probably also heard, ‘Do as I say, not as I do and do not question why.’ In school you were told, ‘Be quiet, listen and learn and only speak when you are spoken to.’

To question an adult’s view was seen as disrespectful. How dare you? This suppression and lack of nurturing of one of our most effective problem solving skills, questioning’, can play an important part in our ability to navigate our adult life.

Questions have great power. In fact, thinking is the process of asking and answering questions. Thinking, good thinking, does not involve asking questions like, ‘Why do I always do such stupid things?’ If this is correct, then it is imperative that we ask the highest quality questions we can. The way we shape the question shapes the answer we get. Ask better questions and you will get better answers.

An example of this might be the last time you were on Google trying to find something which seemingly was not there. Only to slightly change the wording or syntax of your question and low and behold, the answer to your question appears.

What changed? The emphasis of the question stayed the same, it was the quality of the question you asked that differed.

The same applies to your life search engine, your mind’.

One right question asked at the right time can empower or disempower you, even change the direction of your life. Therefore, the quality of the questions that you ask yourself is very important.

Do you avoid asking questions of yourself and other people for fear of the answers you may get?

If this is your mind-set, never forget that it is not only the questions you ask, but also the questions you fail to ask that shape your destiny.

It’s good to share, I always welcome your thoughts, use the comments box below.

Have a phenomenal week

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2 Responses to “Are you afraid to ask difficult questions?”

  1. Dear Ken,

    Thank you for sharing this link on my wall. It has really made me think about how i deal with fear of asking questions. I think as i’ve grown and become more aware of rejection, it has built up a fear in me to sometimes ask questions that are really important to me in case the anwer is not one i would want. In truth their is nothing to fear at all. I am going to exercise my release from a fearful mind of asking questions today by asking the questions most recently i’ve been fearful to ask.

    Thanks once again, yours truly.

    Godfrey K Torto

  2. Pauline Hoo-Sang October 31, 2011 at 1:06 pm

    Dear Ken

    I was taught questions were made to be asked, how do you expect to learn anything if you don’t ask questions? So my advice to anyone would be be bold and if you want to know the answer ask the question. Only fron asking will you learn anything.

    It’s better to look a fool, for the end result will be you would have benefit from what you have learnt…

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